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Why the womb...?

When I arrived on the island of Mersea in Essex county last summer I barely knew I had a womb space. Sure, I was traveling there to learn womb massage and, I mean, three years prior I'd birthed twin humans out of said womb space ... so obviously my ignorance of it didn't preclude its presence... but, like most women, I had NO idea the power it held or why it mattered. Looking back, one could say it was my very womb space that led me there. At that time, even just the label "womb space" made me cringe. Why couldn't we just call it a uterus? the super-scientist in me reasoned. Oh... but a womb would prove to be SO MUCH MORE. It was a lesson I would begin learning on that mystical, magical island in England, and then would carry across the globe with me all the way to mystical, magical Mayan land here on the Mexican Riviera. It's a lesson that would change my life. And I promise you, Womb-owners everywhere, that the same lesson will undoubtedly change yours, too.

So, here's the WOMB Science:

Etymology: from Middle English wombe, wambe, from Old English womb, wamb (“belly, stomach; bowels; heart; womb; hollow”), from Proto-West Germanic *wambu, from Proto-Germanic *wambō (“belly, stomach, abdomen”).

- the name of the organ that biologically female mammals have for growing fetuses before birth. For our purposes, it means the same as "uterus", but most women would agree that womb feels so much more soft, gentle - less clinical and scientific.

Your womb space sits two fingers above your pubic bone and about 3 fingers down from your belly button. Your bladder sits in front of it and the rectum and sacrum behind it.

The average womb is 3"x2"x1" in size, with a non-menstruating volume of 1-2oz and it doubles in mass to 2-4oz during menstruation. Womb positioning in the pelvis is referred to as verted - tipped forward or back. Anteverted (meaning, slightly tipped forward) is normal positioning. If you experience brown / dirty blood during your menstrual cycle, this is a result of the pooling of old blood in a flexed (hunched over) womb space. Wombs can be flexed and verted. If the womb is flexed and/or verted forward it puts pressure on the bladder resulting in bladder issues including frequent urges to urinate.

In most women, the womb sits tipped slightly back (retroverted/retroflexed) which impacts bowel movements, can cause nerve and back pain, pain in the backs of the legs.

Any womb too far forward or too far back is the result of tightness and contraction in the muscles and ligaments of the pelvic floor - the supporting "hammock" that's meant to keep the womb space in its correct place. This tightness can also be exacerbated by scar tissue and the accumulation of toxic waste. Any of these (surprisingly common) conditions will most often lead to pain throughout the pelvis - experienced by women as painful periods and uncomfortable intercourse.


A misaligned womb can also alter the neutral position of the cervix (often playing a role in infertility - sperm don't know where to go!)

The number one contributing factor to tightness, contraction, and discomfort in the pelvis? Stress. Yup. There it is. This flurry of deeply uncomfortable physical symptoms, and the precursors to much more serious chronic reproductive complications and concerns, are the result of decades of tightness and tension caused by permanent fight--flight-freeze responses in the body.

(spoiler: this is why womb massage works! it creates space and relieves structural tension and contraction in the muscles and ligaments of the pelvic bowl, allowing natural movement, repositioning, and increased blood flow - meaning oxygen and nutrients!) - to the womb, ovaries, and fallopian tubes)

And here's the Womb-Mind-Body Connection:

Wondering what women respond to with stress in their pelvis?

Sadly, the better question might be - "What do women NOT respond to with stress in their pelvis?"

Birth imprints. Limbic imprints about being born a girl and a girl's role in this world vs. a boy's. Early family messaging around what girls are "allowed" to wear, or "allowed" to do. When a tomboy little girl is forced to wear a frilly dress for school picture day, she experiences stress. When a little girl is told she can't play with her brother's Legos because they're "boy toys", she experiences stress. When a little girl is abused. When a girl is bullied for how her body looks. When she's caught touching herself and shamed for it.

When she's taught her (insert name of fluffy vagina-alternative here) is a no-no part that's dirty, shameful, and not meant to be seen or explored.

When she gets her first menstrual period and isn't prepared, educated, or celebrated for it.

When her early menstrual cycles are irregular and she's medicated in response. When her parents fight and she witnesses abuse against her mother.

When she hears unkind stories about her "crazy grandmother" or the great grandmother who was institutionalized.

When she experiences stress or trauma around her first sexual interaction. When she's abused in a relationship.

When she's objectified at school or work.

When she's harassed on public transport.

When she's treated without warmth, kindness, or dignity at OB/GYN appointments.

When she's advised to infiltrate her innermost space with man-made metal and toxic plastics and synthetic-hormone-impregnated IUDs in order to prevent pregnancy.

When a tone-deaf romantic partner tells her that he doesn't like how her body looks / smells/ acts. When she's pressured to orgasm.

When she's told she's taking too long.

When she experiences social pressure to conceive.

When she battles infertility and is led to believe it's her fault she can't get pregnant.

When she experiences traumatic birth.

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