Updated: Dec 27, 2022
*Trigger warning: childhood sexual abuse
the vulva, especially as a symbol of divine procreative energy conventionally represented by a circular stone.
a stylized representation of the female genitalia that in Hinduism is a sign of generative power and that symbolizes the goddess Shakti
Yoni is a Sanskrit word that has been interpreted to literally mean the "womb", the "source", "divine passage", "sacred temple" and the female organs of generation. It also connotes the female sexual organs such as "vagina", "vulva", and "uterus", or alternatively to "origin, abode, or source" of anything in other contexts
rec·la·ma·tion /ˌrekləˈmāSH(ə)n/ noun
the process of claiming something back or of reasserting a right.
the cultivation of waste land or land formerly under water.
the act or process of reclaiming: such as. a : reformation, rehabilitation. b : restoration to use : recovery.
the process of getting something useful from waste, or getting something back that was previously thought of as waste.
treatment intended to relieve or heal a disorder.
therapeutic treatment: as. a : remedial treatment of mental or bodily disorder. b : an agency (as treatment) designed or serving to bring about rehabilitation or social adjustment
Yoni Reclamation Therapy was lovingly, consciously, scientifically, physically and metaphysically, neuroscientifically, and sacredly - designed to invite women to
COME ALIVE! 💥 Our most divine, most sacred feminine Self was undeniably linked to ancient life, laws, and practices - but this secret has all but been lost - silenced by 5000+ years of patriarchal systems designed to abolish our strength.
Maybe a few of us might hear some trickle-down messages throughout our lives that we "cycle with the moon" ('whatever that means'), or that masculine-feminine polarity is the secret to sexual excitement, or that 'tantra' sounds 'spicy'... but, the fact is that before their age hits double-digits, the majority of women experience their first of many bouts with
and body-based shaming
When we're told we cannot play with a certain toy because it's not "for girls" we are imprinted with subtle messaging about what we're not allowed to do because of the body parts in our pants. When we're told about "girl's hair styles" and "girl's colours" and "girl's clothes" we're being conditioned to emulate the standard patriarchal norm for a woman's role in this life. Boys get space ships and race cars; girls get kitchen sets and baby dolls.
When we're abused at an early age, we learn that being a woman is unsafe in this world. We learn that our most sacred spaces are shameful and dirty. Our abusers often groom us to stay silent and we're bred to be "good" by being quiet. And so it begins.
When we're caught touching ourselves or exploring our bodies we're shouted at and shamed.
When we begin to menstruate we're often left a pack of sanitary products on our bed and, if we're lucky, we avoid the cringe-worthy announcement of - "Guess who's a woman now?!" at the dinner table.
When our bosses objectify our outfits, when our colleagues whistle at us as we walk by, and when we date our first narcissist - we're reminded that our femininity is unsafe, our sexuality makes us dirty, that relations lead to STIs and unwanted pregnancies, and that our period is a drag.
Our physical womb and yoni spaces become riddled with stored trauma of the emotions we weren't equipped to handle of the traumas we never should have experienced.
It's fairly safe to say that most of us have spent the majority of our lives fervently attempting to reclaim ourselves.
I have been working to "reclaim" my yoni since I was small. An older cousin of mine began abusing me before I'd even discovered myself for myself. My stomach turns at the thought that it was he who taught my body to climax and that's how he abused me... over, and over, and over. I would count ceiling tiles while it happened. He would tell me he's a doctor and that it was all part of his "exam". My stomach wrenches writing these words.
Just when I thought I had "healed" from the childhood abuse, I was re-victimized as a teenager. That "damaged goods" mentality ran deep and in my painful insecurity and wild codependence I was a walking target for abusive men.
Two decades later, birthing my twins - a moment in time meant to be me stepping wholly into unabashed feminine power - turned out to be one of the most medically traumatic and dignity-stripping experiences of my life (at the hands of men who treated me as nothing more than the obstacle between them and the fetuses they needed to extricate from my body).
My twins were only a few months old when an investor in our tech startup offered us more investment if I would sleep with him. This was not an isolated incident.
And for what it's worth.....
.... My story is alarmingly common!
Close to 1/3 of us have been sexually abused.
More than 1/2 of us have been sexually harassed.
It's estimated that 1/2 of women describe their birth as traumatic.
Almost every single one of us has been shamed, silenced, guilted, blamed for facets related to our femininity. And it's time to take it back!
How does unreclaimed feminine appear in women?
These are usually
women with fear, shame, and guilt around sexuality
low libido, painful intercourse
women struggling with obesity and reproductive health issues
disconnect or apathy toward their menstrual cycle
women afraid to speak up about their needs or even have needs in the first place
ashamed of their bodies and unable to feel unapologetically liberated in their skin
carrying trauma (both from early life and inherited grief)
in abusive relationships (either as the victim OR the abuser)
unable to create or maintain boundaries (with themselves, family, partners)
needy, codependent OR toxically independent
lack of creative spark, sense of fulfillment, vibrancy in life
lacking empathy around how their behaviours influence those around them
women struggling to embody their chosen roles as life partner or mother
.... and the list goes on.
When we're unafraid to speak the truth of our childhood abuse, we take back our power.
When we stand up to abusers and predators, we take back our power.
When we own our bodies and accept them unconditionally, we take back our power.
When we embody our pleasure and pursue it with laser-focused intention,
we take back our power.
Yoni Reclamation Therapy™ (YRT) is an evolution of the private healing practice I've built in the Riviera Maya for the past year on top of a foundation of my own journey of yoni reclamation I've been walking for a decade. It's build upon the tenets of Jungian-inspired shadow therapy, on neuroscientific principles of the brain-body connection, on conventional massage therapy and Traditional Chinese Medicine points. It's softer and more feminine than holistic pelvic care, and it's more trauma-informed and nurturing than yoni mapping. Yoni Reclamation Therapy safely and consciously incorporates threads of ancient tantric energy work woven into an undeniably effective science-based practice with striking effects experienced after just one session.
"Yoni work" is not new. Actually, it's been around since the beginning of time - when pagan societies treated womens' bodies holistically and with great honour and reverence. Women were meant to be empowered - empowered women meant empowered matriarchal societies. Unfortunately, it's when patriarchal norms, conventional medicine, and the business of wellness took over, that women's bodies were tucked away never to be seen again (outside of the prying eyes of her husband in bed).